Listening In
A few weeks ago, I offered five principles for interpretive planning. I’ve had some good conversations about those and the implications of each. So I thought I might look at each one in a little more depth here over the next few weeks and give some practical tips. The first one was:
Listen at Multiple Levels
Yesterday, I had someone say to me, “but what if the planner isn’t right?” My response was that the planner should facilitate the process and offer opinions based on their experience, but ultimately, decisions belong to the client. One of the biggest complaints I hear about consultants is “they don’t listen.” The client is telling them what they want, and instead of listening and helping improve on the client’s ideas, the consulting planner simply overrides the client’s desires and then bullies the client into submission. The excuse I hear from planners is that “the client doesn’t know what they’re talking about – I have all the experience so I have all the answers and they should listen to me.” But the client is the one who has to live with the plan, not the consultant. To me, that smacks of an ego issue, and does not represent interpretive planning at its best.
Before going further, I should state that I’m going to refer to clients and consultants in this article, but you can interchange those words with other more appropriate ones if you’re working totally in-house (i.e., clients may be “the boss” and “consultant” may be “agency designated planner.”
A good planner must practice reflective (or active) listening. Hear what your client is saying. Be patient – sometimes it takes a while for a client to articulate his or her thoughts. Being a good facilitator will help you draw out the information you need to move the process along and create a successful plan that works for your client. Remember it doesn’t have to work for you, it has to work for your client.
The “multiple levels” piece of the principle suggests that sometimes people don’t always say what they mean. Studying human psychology and behavior can be a huge help in the planning process. If you haven’t had coursework in these areas, read some of the wealth of research going on these days about body language and communication. Get good at reading faces and knowing when to probe a little deeper to get to the real intent of someone’s comments. Internal politics can often be at play – you’ll know this is the case when someone nods their head in agreement during the meeting only to pull you aside in the hallway later to share something quietly. That person is hoping that you’ll act as his or her voice at the table so he or she won’t have to reveal true thoughts.
The only problem with that is that you cannot reasonably represent a single voice, even if you completely agree with it. As the planner, you must listen to all the voices and determine how to help the client achieve success, even given all the background politics. Sometimes this means sitting down with the client and having a frank discussion about the different power struggles that seem to be going on. Understanding who represents the power, the authority, and the influence in an organization requires that you be good at picking up on what is said and what is not said. Though you may serve as a calming influence, it is unlikely that you will be able to solve all the internal political strife of the organization with a single planning project. Still, you must understand it and be willing to flex as needed to get the job at hand done.
So listen. Sometimes it’s hard to stop talking long enough to listen, but it’s a critical component of a successful planning process. Practice the following:
1. Wait at least 15 seconds before responding to a question to see if the person needs to rephrase it. Also wait at least 15 seconds after asking a question before jumping in to answer it yourself. Give people time to process information.
2. Never interrupt someone else while he or she is speaking. Do not attempt to finish the sentence yourself or overtalk as they finish the sentence. If you have a chronic talker who can’t seem to stop, get good at jumping in during their pause for breath, but make sure you honor their comment while moving the process along.
3. Watch body language and facial expressions. There is an entire body of research on this phenomenon which spurred the recent TV program “Lie to Me.” It’s a fascinating study in human behavior and it works. Is it possible to misinterpret body language? Of course it is, just as it’s possible to misinterpret something someone says, a tone of voice over the phone, or the written word. But the more you practice, the better you’ll get at picking up subtle cues.
4. Study the culture of the agency (this also goes for the culture of the country you’re working in). Know what specific terminology means so that you can gauge the reactions you’re getting. It’s easy to make a mistake in another country just by not understanding the cultural differences, but it’s just as easy when you’re working with a specific agency in your own country, especially with older organizations that have a well-defined corporate culture.
5. Practice reflective or active listening. Make it clear that you’re paying attention (not gazing off into space or working on something else while someone is talking to you), then rephrase what you heard and repeat it back to make sure you’re hearing accurately what was meant. “So if I understand what you’re saying, . . . ” is a good phrase to add to your toolbox. “Can you clarify that for me?” and “So to restate that . .(restate what was said). . . . would that be an accurate reflection of what you said?” are also good.
6. Remember Abraham Lincoln’s philosophy if people think your quieter approach to listening rather than talking is unusual: “I’d rather keep my mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.” You don’t have all the answers – it’s a hard lesson sometimes, but it couldn’t be more true when it comes to planning.







